Almost Bare Podcast
April 23, 2019
Episode 02: Chopped Up Into Little Pieces
On this episode of the Almost Bare Podcast, Lyndsay Soprano and Jon Ramirez sit down to discuss the good, bad, and just plain horrific of online dating.
Jon starts the conversation off by talking about how dating apps tend to give people the opportunity to put up a fake front and how dating apps take away the ability to meet someone and get to know them organically, and how he craves the human interaction that is involved with building a relationship. Jon also points out how dating apps have created a stigma that it is now “creepy” to go up to someone in public to try to get to know them as a result of dating apps.
Jon goes on to talk about the different types of dating apps and how some are for creating intentional relationships, versus the ones that are mainly for hooking up.
Lyndsay talks about how dating sites use marketing to play on people’s insecurities and desperation to find love.
Lyndsay and Jon discuss the different between a fuckboy, a fuck buddy, and a SIMP.
Lyndsay talks about how dating apps can be beneficial for people like her who work from home and don’t otherwise have the opportunity to meet people.
Jon and Lyndsay discuss whether it’s shallow to choose someone based on their profile picture on a dating app, but Lyndsay makes the point that you wouldn’t go up and talk to someone in public and try to get to know them if you weren’t attracted to them.
Jon asked the question of “what was life like before dating apps?”
Lyndsay talks about how she met her ex-husband (old buddy) at his sister’s birthday party and how he wasn’t socially aware enough to pick up on her hint that she was interested in him. She goes on to say that people like him are the perfect candidate for dating apps because they take out the guesswork and make it easier for shy people.
Jon’s future wife, Kari, offered him Nacho Cheese Doritos in class to break the ice. They were in the same film class and worked on a lot of projects together, and that’s how they got to know each other.
Lyndsay and Jon discuss the importance of being safe when it comes to online dating and meeting people from the internet in general. They talk about a few real life stories of people who were killed after meeting up with people from the internet.
[48:01] Story of Sydney Loofe Murdered and Dismembered after Tinder Date Gone Wrong
[52:19] Man Uses Dating Apps to Murder & Rape Victims
[53:38] Woman Lures Pregnant Woman and Cuts Baby Out of Her Womb
Lyndsay and Jon discuss the perks of using a dating app’s algorithm to “trim the fat” and narrow down people who “check your boxes.”
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[18:03] Fuckboy – Asshole boy who is into strictly sexual relationships; he will lead a girl on and let her down, then apologize only to ask for “pics” once the girl has welcomed him back into her trust. Boys like this will pretend to genuinely care about the girl but always fail to prove the supposed affection.
[19:08] Fuckbuddy – Through friendship or a mutual fondness two persons engage in sexual gratification with one another. The aim of fuck-buddies is to receive all the benefits of being in a relationship with another person but not having to deal with any of the downsides of a relationship e.g. commitment, listening to their feelings, caring.
However fuck-buddies can often complicate matters as over time one of the partnership may become overly fond of the other and begin to develop feelings. This is in direct violation of the fuck-buddy law. The only thing that should pass between fuck-buddies is fluid, no emotion whatsoever.
[20:19] SIMP – (S)uckas – (I)dolizing – (M)ediocre – (P)ussy— Basically someone who gives redundant and over the top attention to women that are of far less value than the attention or praise given. Usually the recipient of this praise is knowing of this and is taking full advantage knowing this fact…Thus the term “sucka” is the main attribute and usually the results in the pending downfall of this kind of man.