Almost Bare Podcast
May 20, 2019
Episode 03: Feels Like the First Time
On this episode of the Almost Bare Podcast, Lyndsay Soprano and Jon Ramirez talk about Jon’s wedding in Mexico and honeymoon in Fiji, and having sex for the first time with his new wife.
Jon is now 2 ½ – 3 weeks into married life and loves every minute of it. Although he and his wife have technically been married for almost a year for immigration purposes, he feels “free” now that they are able to live married life.
Jon was raised in the Catholic Church and has tried to follow all the “rules” regarding sex and living together before marriage.
Lyndsay talks about how she respects Jon for taking his time and waiting until marriage, and how she supports marriage, but isn’t a huge fan.
Jon shares a moment that he and his new wife, Kari, shared on the dance floor at their wedding. He leaned into her ear and said, “Oh, you’re getting it tonight.” She gave him a sweet smile and leaned into his ear and said, “Oh no, you’re getting it tonight.”
After the wedding, Jon and his wife went back to their hotel, and as he was helping her take off her dress, he had a moment of “wow, this is my wife.” They then laid in bed and kind of just said, “okay, let’s do this.” He says it was “adorable” because it was like two friends finally coming together.
Lyndsay asks Jon to tell her the “rules of sex” when it comes to Catholicism.
- No sex before marriage
- No condoms, vasectomies, or tubal ligations
Lyndsay goes on to ask what you should do if you want to have sex, but don’t want to get pregnant.
Jon talks about how he and his wife practice “natural family planning,” which entails his wife taking her basal temperature every morning and monitoring the thickness of her vaginal secretions, Jon also checks to see if her cervix is open or closed. He describes this process as working as a team for managing fertility.
Lyndsay feels that contraception is a responsibility, and wants to know the rationale of why contraception is Un-Catholic.
Jon talks about condom use, and how using a condom isn’t “freeing” and can show a lack of trust with you spouse.
Jon and his wife took a natural family planning class through their church before getting married, where a scientist there said that when used properly, this method is 99% effective.
Lyndsay asked why this method is okay, since it is technically a form of birth control.
Jon agrees that if you can’t make the decision to not have sex during the “fertile stage” of the cycle, and you don’t want to have kids, you should use contraception.
Lyndsay and Jon discuss how lifestyle changes for Millenials, such as waiting to get married, different sexualities, and just not wanting to live the “traditional” lifestyle are dropping birth rates.
Lyndsay tells a story about a time she was in a hotel room before a dinner date fooling around, giving a blowjob, and the guy shot cum in her eye and hair.
Jon talks about how it’s tempting to have sex before marriage, especially since they were living together for immigration purposes, so he and his fiancé made some mistakes. They engaged in oral and anal sex before marriage.
Jon believes in a forgiving God, but doesn’t think this should be an excuse for poor behavior.
Lyndsay asks Jon about his experience with period sex while on his honeymoon. Jon explained that it was a little weird, but it was easy to get past because of the love he has for his wife.
Jon talks about how marriage has changed him and made him more mature, he doesn’t just think of it as his life anymore, but his life with his wife.
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