Almost Bare Podcast
September 19, 2019
Episode 15: Don’t Be Jealous
On this episode of the Almost Bare Podcast, Lyndsay Soprano and Jon Ramirez get a little jealous, and discuss the havoc that jealousy can wreak when you don’t deal with it.
Lyndsay starts off the episode by explaining that she lost her voice after she went on a girls trip to Arizona over the weekend with some of her girlfriends from high school. Between lounging on giant unicorn rafts and laughing for 72 hours straight, her voice was a little wrecked.
They jump into this week’s topic of jealous by talking about the different reasons people become jealous, as well as how people can sometimes be turned on by jealousy. Jon says that he isn’t really a jealous person by nature and doesn’t like to dwell on it, and that it’s important to get to the root of why you’re feeling that way so you can deal with hit.
Lyndsay shares that her ex-husband was ragingly jealous towards the end of her marriage and at the time she didn’t really understand why, but in hindsight, she realizes that because of her emotional affair, he had good reason to be jealous. She says that she would’ve been jealous as well if the tables were turned, but her ex took it a step further by acting on his jealousy.
Jon explains that in the beginning of his relationship with his wife Kari, he sort of shamed himself because he had only had one other sexual partner and she had had multiple. He felt a little jealousy because he sometimes wished that he had had that experience. He also had a little bit of Ray Jay / Kanye jealousy when he thought about other men being with Kari before him, but after talking to her about it, she reassured him that at the end of the day, she chose him. Lyndsay feels like it doesn’t matter what happened before you met the person you’re with now, and those actions shouldn’t be held against you.
He goes on to talk about how he felt jealous of Kari’s family because they are so close and he wished his family had that same closeness. Lyndsay shares that she had a little bit of FOMO a few nights ago because she wasn’t feeling well enough to go hang out with Karaoke Guy, and was jealous that his friends were getting to spend time with him and she wasn’t.
What’s the difference between envy and jealousy?
noun, plural en·vies.
a feeling of discontent or covetousness with regard to another’s advantages, success, possessions, etc.
an object of such feeling:
Her intelligence made her the envy of her classmates.
Obsolete. ill will.
noun, plural jeal·ous·ies for 4.
jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself.
mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.
vigilance in maintaining or guarding something.
a jealous feeling, disposition, state, or mood.
They go on to talk about the psychological aspects behind jealousy, and how people basically create scenarios in their heads because they are insecure. Lyndsay adds that you shouldn’t totally discount your gut and intuition because there are very real instances where people are legitimately being cheated on.
They discuss the other side of the coin, which is people being turned on by jealousy. Lyndsay feels like the best example of this occurring would be in Polyamorus relationship. She talks about a time when she was having a threesome and looked over and saw her boyfriend going down on another girl, and how it kind of caught her off guard and turned her on at the same time.
Lyndsay shares that next week they are interviewing a guy who is in a Polygamus relationship and will be asking him how he navigates the jealousy aspect within his relationships.
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Jealousy Definition – Dictionary.com