Episode 17: Heart-on
Almost Bare Podcast
October 17, 2019
Episode 17: Heart-on
On this episode of the Almost Bare Podcast, Lyndsay Soprano and Jon Ramirez discuss matters of the heart. From heart ablations to hearts on their sleeves, they’re laying it all out.
Lyndsay starts off the episode by adding a disclaimer to the last episode that when she said “none of her friends do anything for her,” she was being a baby bitch and wants to apologize to the few friends that she has that step up and have her back.
Jon explains the details of his recent heart surgery, also known as a Cardiac Ablation. This surgery was necessary because he was born with a condition called Wolff–Parkinson–White syndrome. This condition is basically an extra nerve in the heart that can cause periods of tachycardia. Lyndsay shares that she was also born with this condition, but it wasn’t discovered until she had a heart attack at age 30. He was a little scared and nervous about the surgery, and they shaved his balls, but he’s all good now.
They move on to talk about getting their hearts broken. He shares that his first and old heartbreak was from his ex-girlfriend. It was his first and worst relationship, she was very controlling and contriving and always wanted to look through his phone. This made him picky when it came to looking for his next boo. He admits that he left the seminary to be with her, and he struggled with that decision after they broke up.
Lyndsay thinks that everyone deals with heartbreak differently, and that everyone makes decisions for their relationships. She talks about how she sacrificed and changed herself for her ex-husband and how it bit her in the ass, and now it is her priority to make decisions that are beneficial to her.
She continues by sharing a story about the love of her life, Tim, and how they broke each other’s heart hardcore in the early 2000s. She’ll always have part of him in her heart. They broke up because he didn’t want to get married or have kids, and at the time those things were her priority. In response to their breakup, she moved from their place in Huntington Beach to North Carolina, where she got an emergency teaching credential and married the first guy she met 3 months later. The marriage ended in a swift divorce because the dude cheated on her with an older lady, which he compared to “throwing a hotdog down a hallway.”
They discuss whether there’s a healthy way to handle heartbreak, but decide that everyone is different and deals with pain in their own way. Some people drink through it, some work out and get swole, and some eat their way through it. Jon confesses that he was a drive-thru boy at McDonald’s during the breakup with his ex-girlfriend and he got super phat from emotionally eating. He talks about the fear people experience after being heartbroken of being alone.
Shout out to Heather Leigh for contributing this gem to UrbanDictionary.com.
The only way to describe this word would be to say your heart is literally in pain, it feels like someone is squeezing your heart and you can’t breathe. This pain comes from someone breaking your heart. Maybe from a past relationship that didn’t end right or your gf/bf cheating on you and leaving you for some unknown reason. One of those feelings that seem to never go away. Every single thing around you ends up reminding you of that person who once said they loved you. Apparently, they don’t anymore and your coming to reality that they probably never did. It’s not just a mental feeling it’s also physical, because when it happens you feel this horrible pain right where your heart is. It’s like your heart is actually breaking, and I honestly think it is. Every time your alone you just feel like breaking down, and when you’re out with friends if “that” person’s name is mentioned you automatically just shutdown. You can’t think straight and you feel so lost. All in all, it’s probably one of the worse types of pain or hurt you can be in, because you know there is nothing you can do about it.
Me = Brokenhearted
They switch gears and discuss thinking with our hearts instead of our heads, and decision making with our hearts. Jon gives Lyndsay a quiz to see whether she thinks with her heart or her head.
J: Do you think with your heart on your sleeve?
J: Do you blurt out more than you should?
L: 100%, yes.
J: Do you need a lot of time before making a decision?
L: Women are slowly making decisions without knowing it in order to exit a situation or get into a situation.
Example: By the time she left her ex-husband she already had all the finances separate and everything organized and ready to rock and roll. She wasn’t being manipulative, but instead was making sure that they would both be okay.
Conclusion: Yes and no, depends on the situation.
J: Do you get angry when you see dishonesty and injustice in the world?
L: Well, of course. Look at who our president is!
J: Do you easily absorb the energy of those around you?
J: Do you dream big?
J: Do you start a sentence with this a lot: “I feel like…”
L: I’m very careful to use “I” instead of “you” because you have to own that you feel that way instead of putting it on someone else. So yes.
J: You’re a good friend.
J: You are spiritual.
L: Yes. We disagree on religion, but I’m totally spiritual.
J: You are highly creative.
L: Psh, agreed.
J: You are highly dynamic.
J: You feel like you’re an old soul.
J: You have a love/hate relationship with your brain.
J: You will never give up on love.
L: I will never give up on love.
Lyndsay scored 1 no out of 14 questions, meaning she thinks with her heart more often than her head. Jon feels the same way about himself, he loves people and sometimes he gets hurt for that. They’re both sensitive and lovers, making them more giving and caring. She says that she would rather be heartbroken than to not have had the experience. He agrees because even though he left the seminary for a girl that broke his heart, it set him up for all the good things that were to come, like meeting Kari.
Her secret to getting out of broken-heartedness was that she moved back to California from Texas and surrounded herself with good people that helped her through the heartbreak. She explains that everyone is different, but it’s important to always put yourself first because you can’t be happy with someone else if you aren’t happy with yourself.
Jon says there’s no shame in therapy and that it’s helped him work through some of the problems he’s gone through in his life.
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